Random thought. I'm not sure how well I can take heavy teasing/ribbing. I was always the "sweet, quiet one" growing up, shy, never having an opinion, never doing anything to draw attention to myself, and therefore there was never anything for anyone to give me a hard time about. I just went about my life, staying out of sight as much as possible (until I grew up).
Now that I actually have an opinion, and have more confidence to accept attention and be a little crazy now and then, I find that there is more teasing and people giving me a hard time (not in a bad way). And I find myself getting a little defensive. Over silly things. (Not upset, just feeling like I have to fight back a little.) Maybe not talking back was so ingrained in me that I find myself unable to handle "smack talk" from my peers.
Food for thought. Maybe it's a respect thing? Or maybe I'm still letting myself get walked on. Or maybe just not willing to let myself get walked on anymore and overreacting with the defensiveness.
2 comments:
Just smile and nod. People tease to get a reaction. If you respond, they get what they want and you get defensive. Just tell them, "So get fixed." :-P I think sometimes getting defensive is still a lack of confidence (I do it too); if you're not comfortable with your ideas or identity or whatever it is there're bugging you about, I could see that making you defensive. It has taken me years, but it takes quite a bit to fluster me anymore. :)
That should be "they're", not "there're"... darn predictive text and trying to post from my iphone!!
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